Trevbot (![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif){kind=small} trevbot) wrote,@ 2007-02-06 12:44:00 |
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Lack of Integrity
How is it that some people are so selfish and inwardly-focused that they are able to interact with other people in an entirely false fashion? The very notion of friendship and common human decency has been shaken withing me. Twice in the same week.
The first of such instances was in a conversation with a superior of mine at work. Although this person maintains a friendly and jovial public demeanor with me, she has apparently been hiding her dissatisfaction with the way I conduct myself at work. Now let me begin by saying that a superior does have the right to require change of her employees, and when one is charged with the supervision of a project's direction one is expected to make judgement calls that one believes best suits the needs of the project. But when you are talking about an employees conduct, it does nothing to make little jokes about how 'unorganized' they are and follow it up with 'I'm only kidding.' These kinds of moments were followed by a verbal warning from this very same superior last week, telling me all of the things she should have mentioned to me along the way. I am not a stubborn man when it comes to my work ethic, and if an employer wants me to alter my work routine, they need only to tell me. In stead, this particular individual said nothing and expected me to know what she wanted. When I didn't respond to NOTHING, she decided that I required a verbal warning in her office. Power trip by an insecure woman, or severely misguided management skills? Either way, a frustrating thing to get from someone you thought was on your page.
The next instance was far more frustrating and alarming. A woman whom I had met on several occasions and who appeared to me to be a typical non-conformist artist was the roommate of my dearest friend. After a month of disappearence to 'Toronto' which later turned out to be Ottawa, this woman told her roommate that she was going to move to Toronto and had found a replacement roommate. A few days after she departed, my friend discovered that she had left with both the new roommate's rent as well as my friend's. She claimed to be going to 'expensive chinese rehab'. I am on the fence as to whether I would care to believe it.
What the hell people? Why can't we all be a little more honest and a little less deceptive? Is a little personal gain or personal pride so important that we can't just openly tell people our intentions and thoughts?
How is it that some people are so selfish and inwardly-focused that they are able to interact with other people in an entirely false fashion? The very notion of friendship and common human decency has been shaken withing me. Twice in the same week.
The first of such instances was in a conversation with a superior of mine at work. Although this person maintains a friendly and jovial public demeanor with me, she has apparently been hiding her dissatisfaction with the way I conduct myself at work. Now let me begin by saying that a superior does have the right to require change of her employees, and when one is charged with the supervision of a project's direction one is expected to make judgement calls that one believes best suits the needs of the project. But when you are talking about an employees conduct, it does nothing to make little jokes about how 'unorganized' they are and follow it up with 'I'm only kidding.' These kinds of moments were followed by a verbal warning from this very same superior last week, telling me all of the things she should have mentioned to me along the way. I am not a stubborn man when it comes to my work ethic, and if an employer wants me to alter my work routine, they need only to tell me. In stead, this particular individual said nothing and expected me to know what she wanted. When I didn't respond to NOTHING, she decided that I required a verbal warning in her office. Power trip by an insecure woman, or severely misguided management skills? Either way, a frustrating thing to get from someone you thought was on your page.
The next instance was far more frustrating and alarming. A woman whom I had met on several occasions and who appeared to me to be a typical non-conformist artist was the roommate of my dearest friend. After a month of disappearence to 'Toronto' which later turned out to be Ottawa, this woman told her roommate that she was going to move to Toronto and had found a replacement roommate. A few days after she departed, my friend discovered that she had left with both the new roommate's rent as well as my friend's. She claimed to be going to 'expensive chinese rehab'. I am on the fence as to whether I would care to believe it.
What the hell people? Why can't we all be a little more honest and a little less deceptive? Is a little personal gain or personal pride so important that we can't just openly tell people our intentions and thoughts?
